How to Lose Your Anal Virginity  

Porn might make it look easy, but getting the hang of anal sex can be a real pain in the arse (pun intended). If you’re thinking of indulging in some backdoor action, we’ve got the lowdown on losing your anal virginity (and by ‘lowdown’, we mean practical tips to ensure you and your partner have a safe and pleasurable experience).

Take it Slow

We know you’re probably eager to jump on the anal sex bandwagon. But trust us, rushing things won’t end well. When done too quickly, or too aggressively, anal sex can be extremely uncomfortable, especially if you’ve never tried it before.

To ensure your first time is as pain-free as possible, go at a leisurely pace. Engage in plenty of foreplay first, and if something hurts or doesn’t feel quite right, simply stop what you’re doing and reassess the situation.

Starting small can help get you in the mood for the main event (we recommend experimenting with fingers and butt plugs). If you’re still worried it might hurt, using plenty of lube is the easiest way to make things less painful.

Just remember, it can take a while to get the hang of anal, so try not to be disappointed if you don’t become an expert overnight.

Don’t Stress 

Whether you’re into meditation, yoga or aromatherapy, finding a way to relax is an essential part of anal sex. To put your mind at ease, these tips can help:


  • Turn the lights off. Doing it in the dark can help minimise distractions.


  • Let go of performance anxiety. Rather than worrying about how you’re going to perform, congratulate yourself on being brave enough to try anal sex!


  • Find someone you trust. We’re not saying you have to be in a long-term relationship to have anal sex, but finding someone you feel comfortable with can make the experience less nerve-wracking.


  • Avoid overthinking things. By trying to micro-manage your anal sex experience, you’ll never be able to relax.

While it’s normal to be nervous, don’t let your anxieties get you down. Trying anal can be a little intimidating, but that’s all part of the thrill!

Talk it Over

 Regardless of who you’re planning to have anal sex with, talking to your partner is a must for all backdoor virgins. Most importantly, you should check they actually know you’ve never done anal before. Having an open and honest discussion can also help you establish what works and what doesn’t. If you’re not enjoying yourself, don’t suffer in silence! Using your words is the easiest way to make your experience as pleasurable as possible.

Doing something you’ve never tried before can be scary, but we doubt you’ll regret your decision to try anal. Once you take the plunge, you’ll wonder why it was ever a big deal at all!

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