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Meeting in the Middle – How to Deal with Mismatched Libidos

She’s aroused, you’re not. You’re horny as hell, but she’s just not feeling it. Sound familiar? If it does then you may well have a case of mismatched libidos.

There are lots of reasons for libido highs and lows. It could come down to:

• Hormones – these change over time for women and men, and can wreak havoc on your sex drive
• Medication you are taking, or have recently come off, can contribute to libido loss
• Fluctuating stress and tiredness levels can have a direct effect on your ability to get in the mood
• Effects of alcohol – for some, drinking can increase sexual confidence, while for others it can supress those feelings.

It’s not unusual for one person in a relationship to have a higher sex drive than the other. Lots of couples deal with a difference in lust levels, so mismatched sex drives doesn’t mean you have to split up.

If you’re going through a moment of mismatched libidos, we’ve come up with six solutions for meeting in the middle. With a bit of luck, they’ll help get you to a place of eroticism you can both enjoy.

1. Take some “me-time”

If you’re feeling horny, but your partner isn’t, don’t let all that unreleased sexual desire become pent up annoyance. Instead, masturbate. If you’d like your partner to be involved in some way, you could ask them to kiss you while you jerk off. Or you could do the kissing and touching if the roles are reversed and it’s you that’s not in the mood.

Of course, whoever has the lower sex drive always has the right to say “no” if they’re just not feeling it.

2. Have a chat

There are heaps of reasons why someone’s lust for physical love may be in decline. A big contributing factor is often stress or anxiety. If this is the case, meeting in the middle could be as simple as talking about what’s worrying you or your partner. Once everything’s out in the open you can work through it together. Hopefully, this will make your sex drive levels more even.

3. Be positive

Bringing up how long it’s been since you last had sex won’t help anyone. In fact, it will probably lead to resentment, or cause the person with the lower libido to feel inadequate. Instead, be positive about your relationship.

So the sex might not be great right now, but there will be other good things about the connection you have that you can enjoy. Go out and do those things together and focus on the good. Hopefully you’ll be back in bed before long.

4. Go beyond monogamy

One way to solve mismatched libidos is to consider an open relationship. Seeing someone other than your partner, like a highly-professional Sydney escort, could be the middle ground that helps you both. Ideally, if you take this approach it should be done open and honestly.

5. A compliment goes a long way

Another reason for low libido could be low self-esteem. If this is the case then throwing a few heart-felt compliments out there could really help get the mojo and lovemaking back on track.

6. Redefine what sex is

Sex doesn’t always have to be penetrative. If you’re dealing with mismatched libidos, removing some of the pressure that it has to include penetration can be a great compromise.

Redefine what sex is by including massage, mutual masturbation, long kissing and touching sessions. Include these in your definition of sex and you’ll feel like you’re doing “it” a lot more.

Finding a middle ground when you and your partner’s libidos are mismatched can be difficult, but there are ways around it. Whether your libido is currently high, or it’s a little low and you’re after companionship, our beautiful All Sydney Escorts will be happy to spend time with you. Book a date today.